Abusive Relationships

When a woman finds herself (or man) in an abusive relationship, it can go two ways.....she can stay or she can run for the hills.

Why would she stay? After all, who wants to be hurt--physically, emotionally, verbally?

Any logical person would just leave. However, some stay. What makes them stay? I mean, that's not love! I don't care how many times he (or she) says, "Baby, I'm sorry..." LOVE doesn't hurt like that!! LOVE NEVER hurt like that!!

Mister and I was having an intense text convo...

His daughter is in an emotionally abusive relationship and he can't figure out why she won't-can't leave.

I told him that he's in the same type of relationship...same song, different singer....

I explained to him that in that type of relationship, the victim has this thought in their mind that they can't do any better, that life can't be better, that they deserve that life and that is exactly where he is in his life.

He has been deeply hurt in his life and that hurt has caused him so much pain that he turned his back on God....thinking that God caused the pain. The pain turned to bitterness and anger and the whole time the enemy has been shaping these thoughts in his mind that God doesn't love him and that God has left him and that he's in this life all by himself....

That's what an abuser does....they plant these thoughts in the victim's mind and those thoughts become seeds and those seeds begin to grow....

There is a fruit that grows in Jamaica called the Ackee fruit. The Ackee fruit can be deadly. Yes, fruit can kill you....and just as this fruit can be deadly, when you have a seed planted in your mind that is against God, it can grow into a root of bitterness and that bitterness can cause death...death of dreams, death or hopes, death of desires, death of happiness and life.  And God wants to bring all those things--dreams, hope, desire, happiness, etc.--to you..... The abuser (the devil) doesn't let you see that God loves you, but only that this pain in your life was seemingly caused by God. And since it was caused by God then he can't LOVE....

LIES....ALL LIES....

God allows things in our lives...I told him a Job and how he lost ALL in a small span of time and yet, Job looked at the devil for what he was, an abuser, a thief, a murdered...not once did Job turn his back on God.