I met this guy and I really like him...but I'm cautious. I don't need anymore heartbreak in my life. We've been on two dates and the last one included a limo ride and free dinner for two curtousy of a gift I won in a raffle. It was fun. I brought champagne (mock champagne) and we enjoyed ourselves. Some days I can see myself with him and some days I'm not sure. I'm not sure how much of Christ he has in his life and I'm a little fanatical and he seems a little docile (not sure if that's the correct word).
Anyway, we were having a discussion today and he said to me that he didn't believe that people changed. He said that their behaviors may change, but who they are stays that same. I mulled that around in my head trying to understand what he was saying and I had to disagree. Not only disagree, but I really DISAGREED. And I wanted to explain this to him, but he just politely said "that's fine, it's okay to disagree." And that was that.
But, here is why I disagree....
I said to him, if a girl had low self-esteem and was promiscuous, but as she grew older realized that she didn't want to be that way anymore and she changed her thinking about herself and she was no longer promiscuous, does that mean she never change? He said emphatically, "no, she hadn't."
DAG!!!
But that girl was me and I KNOW that I AM a CHANGED person. I'm not the same girl that was looking for love in the arms of all the wrong men. As a matter of fact, I've only been with 2 guys in 5 years and for me, that's huge.
I didn't explain this to him because I didn't feel comfortable with him like that, but DANG!!
I know that in AA they always tell you that you are an alcoholic no matter how long you been sober, but I also know what the word of God says and there is NOTHING that is going to tell me that I'm different from what God says and God says that if Christ has made me free, then I am FREE.
If I"m in prison and they open the door to tell me I'm free to go, why would I stay?
If Christ has freed me and I am a new creature, then I'm not the same as what I used to be so I WON'T call myself that anymore!!
So YES people do change!!!
