All the Men I'm Dating Pt 3

Gov Guy:  I met Gov Guy in 2016. I was really into him, but I didn't think we were a perfect match. I mean, I'm looking for someone who wants the same lifestyle as I do and going to church and praising Jesus wasn't his jam. But he was a good guy and he wanted to have children. I moved way too fast with him and emotionally I was JACKED UP for a long time!! So I broke up with him. Since I was having so much trouble with Mr Ohio I reached out to Gov Guy, which was a bad mistake. But in reaching out he told me that he had a stroke shortly after we stopped talking OMG!!!

He was in the hospital for 3 months. He had to relearn how to walk and be self sufficient. He was now living in Jacksonville, FL with his brother and he wasn't interested in having anymore children. But he was interested in me. OMG!! So we talk on the phone almost every day, but I'm just not into him. And it was a huge mistake reaching out to him. I did make plans to visit him while in FL this winter. I'll see how that goes.

So since I first started writing about all the men I was dating I am now down to only dating one: CB.

This is a rocky situation....

While the hurricane was coming to the west coast CB decided to come back to Illinois. He sent me a a text asking when we could see each other and he said he was in Illinois. WOW.

We start to hang out and I notice that he's only coming to my house. I then ask him why he never invites me to come over. This is when he tells me that he's living in the church. WHAT?

Yea, his dad has a church and he has a blow up bed and desk in one of the rooms in the church. WHY?

I HAVE NO IDEA!!

But, I don't ask him. Instead I ask him, "how long are you gonna be living in the church?" I mean you say you have all these houses? Why are you not living in one of them? He doesn't answer me. He replies, "I could be in my house today on ....." I ask again, "So how long are you gonna be staying at the church?" His reply, "I already have power on at ...."

Why was he not answering my question?  I asked, "HOW LONG...."

I asked him if he was avoiding the questions, he said he's not. He just felt comfortable there.

WHAT??

Who wants to LIVE in a church? How do you raise a family living in a church? Not a parsonage? The actual church, like you are the priest or something. He has children. Does his children visit him at the church?

I'm not gonna say it's strange, just NOT IDEAL. I'm not visiting you at the church. He showed me his living quarters one day while we were video chatting. Like that makes it normal??

That's one problem with the relationship.

The other is the fact that I don't believe he's being real with me. I mean you say you want to be married, but I ask to see your finances. I believe that's a reasonable request. You want to know if I"m a freak in the bed and I want to know how financially secure you are.

He said he could let me see them.

Then the biggest mistake happened....

Yep, we had sex.

OMG!!! WWWWHHHHHYYYYYYY???????

We had a habit of him coming to my house and we'd sit on the sofa and somethings we'd be close and this one night he left late and I invited him back. We got into bed in our clothes, but of course I could not sleep and my hands did some walking and in ended down his pants. Then his pants came off and my clothes came off and his face was between my legs.

It wasn't the best. It wasn't the worst. There is great potential there, but it was not a good move. Then the next night he stayed the night and we did it again. This time it was worse because his member wouldn't work. Which is understandable because we are both Christian and we love Jesus, but we are sinning. So our spirits don't want to sin, it's our body. The next day he wanted to come over, but not have sex. I agreed that that would be fine and we slept next to each other---naked. Which is what have in common. We both like to sleep naked.

We actually have a lot in common, but the sin was taking a toll because emotionally I was losing it. I told him that I didn't want to see him anymore--twice.  Hmmm, this is becoming a pattern.

We talked briefly about sex and how it's not a good thing, but I also mentioned to him that we don't spend time together, we don't talk, I have no idea what his goals and plans are. As a matter of fact anytime I try to talk to him he cuts me off and dominates the conversation. I believe that we could be a really great couple, but one BIG issue is that he's a Bishop (yep I'm screwing the Bishop) and he goes to a different church. And I'm NOT CHANGING MY MEMBERSHIP, EVER unless Jesus tells me to which I don't believe is likely. I believe that I am where I am because Jesus wants me there and I"m not jeopardizing my life by leaving.

So here we are a month after he's been in town and I love him and I want it to work, but I don't know how it will.

Oh yea and I forgot the fact that the third time we had sex I got a cold sore that morning. I asked him if he gets cold sores, he said he hadn't in a long time. But I got one and we were kissing. UGH!! That cold sore plagued me for 2 weeks. OMG. Then a week ago I got a yeast infection and now I've got to go see my gyn because my situation down there is not right. Something fishy going on down there. OMG, I HATE THIS!!!

I hate that we've sinned and I hate that he may not be the one for me. I need Jesus to help me, please!!

All the Men I'm Dating Pt 2

I've talked about CB (who is currently in the hurricane in North Carolina), now on to the next guy that I'm talking too....

Lets call him B Real. I met B Real on POF around the same time I started talking to CB. His profile said he was from Springfield. We chatted back and forth and he told me that he owned his own HVAC company. There wasn't much chemistry and the text back and forth were mundane, but I kept at it. A few weeks after started talking he said he would like to meet me. The problem was my work schedule was crazy, so he finally asked me to come to his party in Springfield. He was a member of a motorcycle club and they were throwing this huge party. I told him I would attend. He wanted to meet me before the party, but our schedules weren't lining up so the party would be our first meeting.

I wasn't too concerned about that. I was cute for the party!!

I showed up and we met and I was pleased. He was a good looking guy. But after we met he went to the restroom and didn't come back.

Hmmmmm,

I'm not sure why he didn't come back, but it was dark outside (the party was outside at night) and I began to respond to a text I got from Mr. Ohio. I looked around the crowd for him and saw him talking to a group of women. I was trying to make myself seen so that he could join me since I was all alone. It was awkward being at a party all by myself not knowing anyone. As I as responding to a text from Mr Ohio, another man noticed the glow of my phone in the dark and came to talk to me. He introduced himself as, "Black." He said that his motorcycle club was responsible for the party. We chatted and soon I saw B Real walking over to us. I was waiting on him to interrupt or at least let it be known that I was here at the party wth him. Nope, he stood off to the side while Black was chatting me up. I mentioned to Black that I was here with him (pointing at B Real) and Black emphatically said, "Well, it doesn't look like he here with you."

He had a good point. Here I was sitting here for 20 minutes and no one was talking to me so it looked like I was at the party alone.

It got to the point in the conversation with Black that he was going to ask me for my number, so I took out my phone and text B Real, "Your boy tryna get my digits, what's up with that?"

Basically, I was trying to have him rescue me, but instead rescuing me he came over and said, "If you giving out your number, you can have a good night!"

WHAT???  WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?

I showed him that text I sent him and he said his phone was dead.

I expected him to rescue me then, but he still didn't step into the conversation. So Black asked to show me around. I got up and walked around with him. B Real didn't like this, "Really," he said as we walked past him. But, what was I supposed to do at that point? I mean I came to a party to meet you and you ignore me until someone else steps to me.

So I walked around with Black as he showed me all the bikes and took me to meet people. I wasn't interested Black at all, but I didn't want to sit by myself at a party where I knew no one. Black began to ask me about myself and I asked him was he single.....this is when it got interesting.

He told me he wasn't single and that his girlfriend was back at home in Chicago. His girlfriend that he lived with.

WAIT, WHAT???

At that point I was making my exit. But before I could B Real came to me to tell me one more time that if I had a good time and gave out my number, I didn't need to talk to him anymore.

Then he called me Kim.

WHAT?????

My name is NOT Kim. I told him and his response was, "I've been drinking."

Black walked me to my car and that was that.

The next morning he thanked me for coming and said that if I gave out my number it was cool.

WHATEVER!!

I reassured him that I wasn't thinking about that dude. A week later he came to my church and we had a proper date. He said it was his way of redeeming himself. We went to Applebees after church.

But, church was a little confusing....he didn't let me know that he was there (I'm in the balcony on Sunday working multi-media) and when service was over instead of coming to find me he was leaving. I had to run out the building to catch him. And then he acted like we didn't make plans to meet after church. So it was awkward again. He texted me to ask if we were meeting up. Why would he text that? I thought that was the plan, So we ate at Applebees. Then he left. Again it was awkward because I thought we were gonna spend more time together so I get this text about 20 min after he leaves saying that he wanted to spend more time with me. Then why did you leave? I don't understand.

So we text back forth and I told him that I could come to visit him since he came to see me. This is when I realized that he wasn't from Springfield. He lived in Homewood, IL.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH GUYS MISREPRESENTING THEMSELVES?

I liked him but how was this gonna work? So I didn't pay too much attention to him until he called me the next Sunday, "Tell that n*gga, that his time is up?" Basically, he thought that I was seeing someone else because I wasn't really talking to him. Really, I wasn't talking to him because there wasn't much chemistry and he lived in Homewood and I didn't like the fact that his profile said Springfield. Was he trying to just meet someone for the party?

I really think that was the case.

He's a part of this motorcycle group and they have meet ups all over the country. He could just be changing his profile for all the cities that they visit.

So here it is a weeks later and I am in a blah mood concerning him.

To Be continued......