I met this guy.....
Oh boy.....
We shall call him Dell. Dell and I met online on FB dating about a week before Christmas. During that time I meet Cincinnati guy also and I like him so we chatted for about a week before it fizzled. So, I started chatting with Dell. We found out that he lives a few blocks around the corner from me and I asked him out on a FaceTime brunch. I had to cancel because I needed to be out of town so he invited me to dinner at his house on New Years Day. We had a good time chatting. The vibe was good. The next day I was grocery shopping and he mentioned he forgot to get food for lunch so I offered to pick up some stuff for him. I did and we hung out that evening when he got off work. The next day I offered to bring him lunch to work since he work 12 hour shifts and he don't get home until after 7:30. Thats a long time to not eat when you have lunch at noon. He was shocked that I offered. I was shocked that he was shocked. But instead of bringing food to his job I just bought him dinner and we hung out again. Then he tried to kiss me. I moved my face because I wasn't ready for that yet. It was a little awkward, but it was fine. The next day he texted me to ask if I was affectionate. I told him that I was, but I was a little thrown off guard. So I asked if we could hang out again and he that he needed some rest and, "Plus you need more time."
What? I need more time?
I mean just because I don't want to kiss you, you don't want to see me? WOW. I didn't make much of it and we moved on. A few days went by and I asked if I could come over. He told me I could, but didn't tell me when so I called him and we ended up flirting on FaceTime. He mentioned about me staying the night. I told him my thoughts on that...
Basically, the temptation for sex would be too great and I wasn't sure we were ready for that. He invited me over and I sat down and his kissed me.
He KISSED me GOOOOOODDDDDDD!
OMG I haven't been kissed like that in ages and I liked it. Then we cuddled and it got late so I decided to leave. When I got up he grabbed me and I straddled him. We kissed. His hands moved really fast and before I knew it my nipples were in his mouth. We headed to his room and the deed was done. It was good. Not great, but GOOD and I enjoyed it.
The next day he apologized.
WHAT?
He said that he should have stopped when I told him no. My "no" wasn't a hard "NO." It was a I don't think this is a good idea, but I don't want it to stop "no." So I didn't stop him and we did the deed. He wondered if he was too aggressive. I loved the aggression. I loved his hands in my hair and all over me and .....all the rest of it. I reassured him that if I wanted to leave I would have. PERIOD.
We then talked about me visiting that evening because I was firing on all cylinders at that point. I was ready to get into it every day. The evening came and he told me his daughter was supposed to come visit. Of course I knew that his daughter wasn't gonna show up...The next day I asked to see him, but he said that he liked to drink and he didn't want me to see him drinking.
WHAT?
He said that he would be uncomfortable. I asked him why I made him uncomfortable. A few days later he asked me to come over and he basically said that he likes to smoke in his garage on his days off (no one knows that he smokes) and he drinks when he smokes so he's uncomfortable drinking and smoking around someone who doesn't do that. I told him the reasons I don't drink and that made him more uncomfortable. I left his house and we texted when I got home. I ended up back at his house 30 mins later. Clothes were coming off when I got in the door.
The next day I asked to come over and he said, "I'm so used to alone time here that incorporating someone else in is something I have to get used to, but I don't mean no harm."
So basically, he likes to be alone and he's not ready for a relationship. At least that's what I got from that statement. I went to his house. He sat in the chair drinking and I laid on the couch. At one point I asked him to come cuddle on the couch, but he was drinking which made it awkward because he didn't have anywhere to put his drink. So he went back to the chair. I left and he texted me that he wished I could have stayed. We both were tire so I went home.
I haven't seen him since. We've texted and that's about it. I sent him a text on Thursday, "Are you into me cuz I like you but I'm not sure how you approach being in a relationship. Well actually you said you don't know how to be in a relationship. So I guess I want to know if you want to discuss being in a relationship with me?" He responded, "Maybe we should discuss this tomorrow. You need your rest...." We haven't discussed it AT ALL so I decided to just let it be. If he wants to see me he's gonna have to let me know.....
To be continued.....
